Don’t feel guilty if you don’t know what to do with your life…

I can’t believe that Wednesday is almost over. This week so far has been rough because of the lack of sleep I’ve been getting (4-5 hours per night) but I am starting to get everything together – I have received most of the textbooks I’ve ordered, organized my papers as the treasurer of SSF Hartman House (a nonprofit business), and am slowly getting into a rhythm of working out, napping, going to class, studying, and judo practice. Homework has been piling up but I enjoy my classes this semester so it shouldn’t be too bad. It’s just hard getting started.

My parents wanted me to look into a few things for them, namely, finding a probate lawyer and writing a will for them. I looked into writing a will and getting a lawyer to do it would be best but with the gas station being sold, my parents should wait until all their assets have settled and all the money has finished transferring hands. Besides, they might move to California so things would change and the will would too. I will look back into this in a few months. On the other hand, I don’t even know where to start looking for a probate lawyer especially since I don’t feel comfortable with being able to discern a good probate lawyer from a bad one. I will keep looking but I need direction.

I received a call from one of my best friends, Jibu, who I haven’t talked to in a couple weeks. He has been busy with wedding errands but he has also started a forex trading system that I may want to look into. Anyways, I don’t have time this semester so I’m not going to worry about it until next semester.  However, some things I do need to look into right away are talking to an advisor about whether I will be forced to graduate as I have fulfilled all my requirements to do so even though I haven’t completed all four years.  Maybe I can take on an interior design minor so I won’t need to graduate? Anyways, I’ll have to see if that’s allowed. In addition, should I choose to go to graduate school, what should I study? I have no clue.

To do:

1. Make appt with advisor concerning graduation.
2. Prepare for career fair.
3. Make detailed plan for Job Shadowing Project (JSP) that I thought of over the summer.

Because I liked this video so much and it has personal significance to me, I’m posting it again below.

Lyrics by Baz Lurhman:

Ladies and Gentlemen of the class of 99…Wear sunscreen

If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be it. The long term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists, whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable than my own meandering experience. I will dispense this advice now.

Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth; oh nevermind; you will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they have faded. But trust me, in 20 years youll look back at photos of yourself and recall in a way you cant grasp now how much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked…Youre not as fat as you imagine.

Dont worry about the future; or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubblegum. The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind; the kind that blindside you at 4pm on some idle Tuesday.

Do one thing everyday that scares you

Sing

Dont be reckless with other peoples hearts, dont put up with people who are reckless with yours.

Floss

Dont waste your time on jealousy; sometimes youre ahead, sometimes youre behind…the race is long, and in the end its only with yourself.

Remember the compliments you receive, forget the insults; if you succeed in doing this, tell me how.

Keep your old love letters, throw away your old bank statements.

Stretch

Dont feel guilty if you dont know what to do with your life…the most interesting people I know didnt know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives, some of the most interesting 40 year olds I know still dont.

Get plenty of calcium

Be kind to your knees, youll miss them when theyre gone.

Maybe youll marry, maybe you wont, maybe youll have children, maybe you wont, maybe youll divorce at 40, maybe youll dance the funky chicken on your 75th wedding anniversary…what ever you do, dont congratulate yourself too much or berate yourself either – your choices are half chance, so are everybody elses.

Enjoy your body, use it every way you can…dont be afraid of it, or what other people think of it, its the greatest instrument youll ever own.

Dance…even if you have nowhere to do it but in your own living room.

Read the directions, even if you dont follow them.

Do NOT read beauty magazines, they will only make you feel ugly.

49 second break in speech — Quindon singing

Get to know your parents, youll never know when theyll be gone for good. Be nice to your siblings; they are the best link to your past and the people most likely to stick with you in the future.

Understand that friends come and go, but for the precious few you should hold on. Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography in lifestyle because the older you get, the more you need the people you knew when you were young.

Live in New York City once, but leave before it makes you hard; live in Northern California once, but leave before it makes you soft.

Travel.

Accept certain inalienable truths, price will rise, politicians will philander, you too will get old, and when you do youll fantasize that when you were young prices were reasonable, politicians were noble and children respected their elders.

Respect your elders.

Dont expect anyone else to support you. Maybe you have a trust fund, maybe you have a wealthy spouse; but you never know when either one might run out.

Dont mess too much with your hair, or by the time its 40, it will look 85.

Be careful who advice you buy, but be patient with those who supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia, dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than its worth.